Answer Yourself! A blog by Sukhpreet Singh

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16th April 2008

I am back, I had been suffering from excusitis

Excusitis – one of the most prevalent disease of the “average mind” that blocks all the roads to success and achievement. I was blessed with a son last December and the last post I wrote 29th Nov. Since then, I haven’t written any post and every time I would give myself or anyone else one simple reason why I don’t write anymore or do other stuff that I use to do before the baby was born – “I don’t get time ‘cuz my son keeps me busy.”

I was under a tight grip of this excusitis for past couple of months. Every time, I would come up with an idea to write a blog article, my laziness would jump in and my mind would say “You are too tired to write that…. you haven’t slept well… you are sick… nobody is gonna read it anyways so whats the hurry…” and I would give in. Sometimes I mustered enough strength to write an outline but could never overcome the power of excusitis to finisih off what I started and I have about 7-9 posts in “outline” state. So what changed?

I was sick and tired of being sick and tired. I have always believed in power of company and so I figured that I must be doing something wrong. I discovered that I was not reading good books anymore (especially before going to bed) , I was not listening to good audio CDs anymore, infact I was spending enormous time listening or reading the news. All though it was broadening my mental experiences (I usu. listen to NPR) but I was not feeding my “positive thought process”. So I went searching my stash of CDs and books that have always helped me to put me back on road to success. Voila!! I found the audio book for “MAGIC OF THINKING BIG”. Although I have read this book thrice from cover to cover and have listened this audio CD once, but when I listened to it this time, it seemed that I was listening to it for the first time and that the author was saying everything that I needed to listen.

The 2nd chapter of that book is titled: “Cure yourself of excusitis, the failure disease”. Listening to that chapter, I diagnosed the my symptoms were that of excusitis. And that chapter also described the cure for it. I listened to that CD everyday for a week and TOOK ACTION. That was it – I was cured. I am very happy to have such good company of great books.

I highly recommend this book to EVERYONE. This is one of the most simple and yet most powerful book written on self-improvement.Excusitis

Here is the summary of this chapter:
Basically, there are four most common forms of excusitis:
1) Health Excusitis : “…but my health isn’t good.
2) Intelligence Excusitis : “… but you’ve got to have brains to succeed.
3) Age Excusitis : “… it’s no use. I’m too Old (or too young)
4) Luck Excusitis : “… but my case is different; I attract bad luck

Here is the list of a few vaccines against:
1) Health Excusitis :
a) Refuse to talk about your health. The more you talk about an ailment, the worse it seems to get.
b) Refuse to worry about your health. Exercise some self control.
c) Be genuinely grateful that your health is as good as it is. Think of that old saying: “I felf sorry for myself because I didn’t have any shoes until I met a man who had no feet.”
d) Remind yourself often, “Its better to weat out that rust out.” Life is yours to enjoy; don’t waste it worrying.

2) Intelligence Excusitis :
a) Never underestimate your own intelligence and never overestimate the intelligence of others. Don’t sell youself short. Concentrate on your assets. Oh my GOD, I can’t tell you true this is.
b) Remind yourself often: “My attitudes are more important than my intelligence.”
c) Remember that the ability to think is of much greater value than the ability to memorize facts. Use it to create and develope ideas, to find new and better ways to do things.

3) Age Excusitis :
a) Think “I am still young,” not “I’m already old”. OR “I am young, but I have energy of youth to compensate for inexperience”. Practice looking forward to new horizons.
b) Don’t concentrate on lost time: “I should have started years ago”. Rather, invest future time in doing what you really want to do.

4) Luck Excusitis :
a) Accept the law of cause and effect. Take a second look at what appears to be someone’s “good luck”. You’ll find not luck but preparation, planning, hardwork and success-producing thinking preceded his good fortune. I have always liked this quote from Michael Jordan when someone asked him: “Do you think you have been lucky in life”. His reply was: “The harder I worked, the luckier I got”.
b) Don’t be a wishful thinker. Don’t waster your mental muscles dreaming of an effortless way to win success.

I like to see excusitis as common cold. There is no onetime cure for it. Excusitis will strike back in some other form. Have your chest of vaccine in mind and on detecting the first symptom of it, inoculate yourself with these simple steps. The tricky part is to detect the symptoms soon enough.

Act upon some of these simple steps and cure yourself from excusitis today. If you use some other kool techniques to fight any kind of excusitis, I will be happy to learn it from you. Please feel free to share.

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31st October 2007

To understand everything is to forgive everything – Halloween Joke

I came across one of the funniest joke on Halloween on comedycentral.com. It goes something like this:

A man and his wife were invited to a swanky masked Halloween Party. The wife got a terrible headache and told her husband to go to the party alone. He, being a devoted husband, protested, but she argued and said she was going to take some aspirin and go to bed, and there was no need of his good time being spoiled by not going. So he took his costume and away he went.
The wife, after sleeping soundly for one hour, awakened without pain, and as it was still early, she decided to go to the party after all. In as much as her husband did not know what her costume was, she thought she would have some fun by watching her husband to see how he acted when she was not with him.Halloween

She joined the party and soon spotted her husband cavorting around on the dance floor, dancing with every nice girl he could, and copping a little feel here and a little kiss there. His wife gulped couple of shots and moved on up to him. And being a rather seductive woman herself, she was able to get her husband to leave his partner high and dry and devote his time to the new stuff that had just arrived.

She let him go as far as he wished; naturally, since he was her husband. Finally he whispered a little proposition in her ear and she agreed, so off they went to one of the cars and had a little romp.

Just before unmasking at midnight, she slipped away and went home and put the costume away and got into bed, wondering what kind of explanation he would make for his behavior. She was sitting up reading when he came in and asked what kind of a time he had.

He said, “Oh, the same old thing. You know I never have a good time when you’re not there.”

Then she asked, “Did you dance much?”

He replied, “I’ll tell you, I never even danced one dance. When I got there, I met Pete, Bill Brown and some other guys, so we went into the den and played poker all evening. But I’ll tell you… the guy I loaned my costume to sure had a real good time!”

For two minutes, I could not stop laughing. And then I did what no one should do – I analyzed the joke. Two questions came up in my mind:

1) Did the wife commit adultery? What should she do next?

2) If the wife tells the husband what actually happened, how should he take it?

My take on the situation:

I don’t think it was adultery even though it was voluntary. It was a stupid mistake of getting drunk, and taking even stupider (if such word exists) action. She should muster courage and tell her husband the truth. Because she wouldn’t want to be in a situation where her husband discovers it later and will have to say “I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you” (Friedrich Nietzsche )

On the other hand, the husband should try to put himself in her shoes and understand the situation. Buddha said, “To understand everything is to forgive everything”. This will help him to forgive her and bring more strength, trust and peace to the relationship.

I know its easier said than done. I would like to find how you think the husband and wife mentioned above should handle such a situation?

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4th October 2007

Is President Bush trying to do things right, or the right things?

In October 8th issue of TIME, I read this:

$500,000 is the amount the Iraq war costs per minute, according to a joint analysis by a Nobel-prizewinning economist and a Harvard scholar, who noted that the amount spent on war each day could pay for health care for 423,529 children.War Money being wasted

President Bush recently vetoed SCHIP – State Children’s Health Insurance Program – bill. SCHIP currently covers about 6 million children in families that earn too much to qualify for the Medicaid program for the poor, but not enough to afford their own, private health insurance. The bill the president vetoed would have added $35 billion to the program over the next five years — enough to cover about 10 million children total.

One of his reasoning is:
This program expands coverage, federal coverage, up to families earning $83,000 a year. That doesn’t sound poor to me.” This is not true – SCHIP would cover up to families earning $60,000 – a family of four.

The point is that he willing to splurge on Iraq War but if a program goes out to help an extra 4 million kids, thats not acceptable. Here is simple math that shows that the amount spent on war for an extra 9.45 days will be enough to get those 4 million kids the health coverage they need, which the President doesn’t agree with.

423,529 children can get health care by => 1 day’s worth of expenditure on Iraq war,
6,000,000 (6 million) children can get health care by => 14.2 day’s worth of expenditure on Iraq war , and
10,000,000 (10 million) children can get health care by => 23.6 day’s worth of expenditure on IraqConfused President war.

So to cover extra 4 million kids, its gonna take 9.45 day’s worth of money allocated towards Iraq war.

Is he trying to do things right or is he trying to do the right things?

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