Answer Yourself! A blog by Sukhpreet Singh

A blog on personal development, entrepreneurship & change.

16th April 2008

I am back, I had been suffering from excusitis

Excusitis – one of the most prevalent disease of the “average mind” that blocks all the roads to success and achievement. I was blessed with a son last December and the last post I wrote 29th Nov. Since then, I haven’t written any post and every time I would give myself or anyone else one simple reason why I don’t write anymore or do other stuff that I use to do before the baby was born – “I don’t get time ‘cuz my son keeps me busy.”

I was under a tight grip of this excusitis for past couple of months. Every time, I would come up with an idea to write a blog article, my laziness would jump in and my mind would say “You are too tired to write that…. you haven’t slept well… you are sick… nobody is gonna read it anyways so whats the hurry…” and I would give in. Sometimes I mustered enough strength to write an outline but could never overcome the power of excusitis to finisih off what I started and I have about 7-9 posts in “outline” state. So what changed?

I was sick and tired of being sick and tired. I have always believed in power of company and so I figured that I must be doing something wrong. I discovered that I was not reading good books anymore (especially before going to bed) , I was not listening to good audio CDs anymore, infact I was spending enormous time listening or reading the news. All though it was broadening my mental experiences (I usu. listen to NPR) but I was not feeding my “positive thought process”. So I went searching my stash of CDs and books that have always helped me to put me back on road to success. Voila!! I found the audio book for “MAGIC OF THINKING BIG”. Although I have read this book thrice from cover to cover and have listened this audio CD once, but when I listened to it this time, it seemed that I was listening to it for the first time and that the author was saying everything that I needed to listen.

The 2nd chapter of that book is titled: “Cure yourself of excusitis, the failure disease”. Listening to that chapter, I diagnosed the my symptoms were that of excusitis. And that chapter also described the cure for it. I listened to that CD everyday for a week and TOOK ACTION. That was it – I was cured. I am very happy to have such good company of great books.

I highly recommend this book to EVERYONE. This is one of the most simple and yet most powerful book written on self-improvement.Excusitis

Here is the summary of this chapter:
Basically, there are four most common forms of excusitis:
1) Health Excusitis : “…but my health isn’t good.
2) Intelligence Excusitis : “… but you’ve got to have brains to succeed.
3) Age Excusitis : “… it’s no use. I’m too Old (or too young)
4) Luck Excusitis : “… but my case is different; I attract bad luck

Here is the list of a few vaccines against:
1) Health Excusitis :
a) Refuse to talk about your health. The more you talk about an ailment, the worse it seems to get.
b) Refuse to worry about your health. Exercise some self control.
c) Be genuinely grateful that your health is as good as it is. Think of that old saying: “I felf sorry for myself because I didn’t have any shoes until I met a man who had no feet.”
d) Remind yourself often, “Its better to weat out that rust out.” Life is yours to enjoy; don’t waste it worrying.

2) Intelligence Excusitis :
a) Never underestimate your own intelligence and never overestimate the intelligence of others. Don’t sell youself short. Concentrate on your assets. Oh my GOD, I can’t tell you true this is.
b) Remind yourself often: “My attitudes are more important than my intelligence.”
c) Remember that the ability to think is of much greater value than the ability to memorize facts. Use it to create and develope ideas, to find new and better ways to do things.

3) Age Excusitis :
a) Think “I am still young,” not “I’m already old”. OR “I am young, but I have energy of youth to compensate for inexperience”. Practice looking forward to new horizons.
b) Don’t concentrate on lost time: “I should have started years ago”. Rather, invest future time in doing what you really want to do.

4) Luck Excusitis :
a) Accept the law of cause and effect. Take a second look at what appears to be someone’s “good luck”. You’ll find not luck but preparation, planning, hardwork and success-producing thinking preceded his good fortune. I have always liked this quote from Michael Jordan when someone asked him: “Do you think you have been lucky in life”. His reply was: “The harder I worked, the luckier I got”.
b) Don’t be a wishful thinker. Don’t waster your mental muscles dreaming of an effortless way to win success.

I like to see excusitis as common cold. There is no onetime cure for it. Excusitis will strike back in some other form. Have your chest of vaccine in mind and on detecting the first symptom of it, inoculate yourself with these simple steps. The tricky part is to detect the symptoms soon enough.

Act upon some of these simple steps and cure yourself from excusitis today. If you use some other kool techniques to fight any kind of excusitis, I will be happy to learn it from you. Please feel free to share.

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29th November 2007

My Black Friday Shopping Spree – Guilt Free

A barrel of oil is trying to make a century, stock market is shaky, housing market is in the trenches and still “U.S. consumers spent $10.3 billion on holiday purchases on Friday after Thanksgiving, an 8.3 percent increase from last year” according to bloomberg.com

Shopping SpreeI too contributed my share to $10.3 billion over “Black Friday“. My wife and I spent over two grand, guilt free. Statically, an average American spends about $800 on “Black Friday” weekend. And we spent about three times that. “How did you manage to pull that off and that too with out any guilt?” you may ask. Well, the simple answer is – planning and delayed gratification. In this post and next few posts, I will share some of the basics that I have learned about personal finance and its management. These ideas are so simple that I am gonna call ‘em “Duh Rules“. ["Duh" is an exclamation that is used to express disdain for someone missing the obviousness of something]

But first the meat behind my Thanksgiving weekend shopping spree:

The average family carries credit card balance of $8,000.00 month to month. And I have been carrying more than double the amount, i.e. $20000 as credit card debt. But all that credit card debt is in fact making money for me instead of taking money from me and helped me in my Black Friday shopping spree. How? Again, its all about planning. Its pretty simple if you know what you are doing.

1) First, I paid all my debts – credit cards, student loans, car loans etc except for my mortgage.Debt Free

2) I believe in “giving” & so I take out some money for charity/donation every year and this year was no exception.

3) I almost maxed out my 401K for this year. My wife is at 75%.

4) I started saving at least a decided-minimum amount of money each month to build up my “rainy day saving”.

5) Then, when I got a credit card offer that would give me 0%APR for 12 months and 7.9% after that, I accepted it. At first my credit limit was $20,000. I took half (50%) of that money and deposited in my high interest savings account (5.05% APY). Reason for not transferring 100% (i.e. $20,000) of amount in savings account was not to affect my credit score drastically. I didn’t want to be perceived as high-risk consumer, totally dependent on the credit card. After couple of months, I called the credit card company to double my limit to $40,000 and again transferred $10,000 into my savings account. At end of this promotional period, I would have paid off the debt and still left with about $800 from interest and a credit cart with relatively lower APR (7.9%) and $40,000 of available credit.

I took care of the DOs first, i.e. paying off my debt and build some savings. Prioritization helped me to utilize the money to take care of important needs and then with the left over money I took care of my wants. Other part of this whole process was delayed gratification – I waited for over year and a half to get what I wanted even though I could have gotten it earlier. While I was getting rid of all the debt, I kept accumulating all the gift cards and money (given as gift on various occasions) over the past year and a half. And on this “Black Friday”, I bought a 50″ Plasma TV and a nice Home Theater System for our home besides Christmas gifts for relatives and friends. All in all, my out of pocket expenditure was $1000 but then that $800 that I earned as interest would offset most of it and at the end of it I would have shelled out only $200 of my own money.

Securing your financial future and living a satisfied, non-penny-pinching life can go hand in hand, if planned well. But first step to planning is education. I’ll talk more about it in my next post.

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1st November 2007

How do you pray?

I came across this topic of prayer from one of the blogs that I read regularly – MrSikhnet.Com. The video posted there does a great job at explaining what a prayer is. Here are some of the highlights for me:

1) Lot of time people pray a very non-specific prayer like “God, please make everythig ok for me” or “God please bless him, he is sick”. Its like going to a store and telling the shopkeeper “Please give me some red things”. What are you gonna get – probably some red things that you may or may not want.
2) Prayers should be absolutely clear. How clear you are in your prayers, thats how specifically it comes back to you or gets fulfilled.
3) Who is listening to your prayer – you are. So when you pray and you visualize how things need to be because that how you see them in your heart, thats when it starts to manifest itself. Thats when you invoke what you see and ask.
4) Prayer is not a supplication, prayer is an invocation. (Supplication : To ask for humbly or earnestly, as by praying)
5) When we pray correctly, it has the power of manifesting itself into reality.

My prayers usually are, “God, please make everything great for me and others”. I have realized I do this because:

a) I don’t have it written down or chalked out what is that I want, exactly?
b) I am in a hurry so don’t have time to sit with my eyes closed and visualize what I want exactly .
c) I consider prayer to be very sacred and didn’t want to make it a shopping list.
d) So as not to be selfish, I want “things” to be ok for “others” too. (Again, no specificity)

But I have started working towards being more specific while praying and also to take out time to visualize it. My prayers are now something like, “God help me start my xyz company to make a positive impact on the users/consumers, to be the best and most profitable company in its field, to become a great leader, to create leaders and to contribute my time and money to the society” and “Help me serve my friends, my family and above all, help me serve you – by serving the needy. Please give me that strength, courage and wisdom to follow your path. And help me remember you every breadth of my existence.

Original post can be found here.

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